Notice that Rebekah was asked if she consented to the marriage.
Chapter 16 How Herod, When He Had Married Mariamne, Took Jerusalem with the Assistance of Sossius, by Force; And How the Government of the Asamoneans Was Put an End to 1.
(468) After the wedding was over, came Sossius through Phoenicia, having sent out his army before him over the midland parts.
But the king was enraged, and he sent his armies and destroyed those murderers and set their city on fire.
Then he said to his slaves, The wedding is ready, but those who were invited were not worthy.
those forming the bridal procession) with timbrels, and minstrels, and many weapons. Imagine having the best man and nine of his friends and your maid of honour and 9 of your best friends, sitting in the hall of your hotel room on your wedding night, waiting to hear your new husband yell for joy when he discovers you are a virgin!