That’s a word that has almost exclusively been applied, usually derogatorily, to effeminate gay guys.
And what about the phrases “shoot the shit” and “grab a beer?
The first—“a gay man who acts masculine and is interested in guy stuff like sports, video games, military issues, grilling, knives, gear, working out, gadgets, tech, etc ...”—seems to have been lifted from the Gaybros mission statement.
The second is less neutral: “Young masculine homosexual males who exhibit no effeminate characteristics or interests and make a point of going on about how 'normal' they are.
This is something else they insist on telling everyone.” Before meeting the Gaybros, the second definition was the only one I knew, and I am not at all alone.