Because the highs are great but the lows really suck. And if you ask too often or require too much proof that he really does like you, you are the insane person asking too much and he will be done with you.12. If you’re not on his "crazy" list, he won’t really cut himself out of your life. No, things won’t necessarily progress to a deeper level but he will always let you believe that he might someday want a real relationship.13. (They’ve got the magic that way.) It will be a short, sweet, low-effort communication but just enough to make you think they want to keep you around. If you’re out with him and he catches others looking at you, he will place more worth on you and you’ll feel beyond adored — but for that night only.15. (No offense, collectors, we all have our quirks.)But the same way he considers it a warning sign if your bed’s coated in a menagerie of stuffed animals, you should be warned that certain behaviors signal you’re in the presence of someone who’s looking to collect … You might say you feel like he doesn’t want to be with you. You will probably hear from the collector just as soon as you think you’re over it. He likes you better when you’re subject to other admiration. But collectors want the thing that other people want. He never goes much deeper than that at those early stages, though, because he wants to catalog you as simply as possible.16. Think about the collectors you see in movies and in television. A collector only shows you as much of himself as he can bear. Surrounding himself with things he attaches meaning to is about as much of a relationship as he can handle. And, in all honesty, a smart woman who’s on to his game is almost more certain to be a victim of his behavior than someone who just thinks he’s a sh*tty boyfriend. The seemingly sensitive woman will think if she loves him just right, she can break his habit.
Collectors really get to know you at the beginning and take a real-seeming interest in your life.
He thinks of you as a set of adjectives (three to four at most). Then there’s the carefree, athletic, competitive one.
Having a set of beloved objects they never get too close to makes them feel cared for, and how is it their fault if they can’t decide? Have fun with a collector but maintain cautious bemusement.
Even when you think you can rise above the collection, you probably can’t.
Switch your mindset to one of abundance and you won’t freak out if her “I love you” turns into “I hate you and you have a small dick”.