I go weeks without wanting sex, can’t bear to be touched. It’s emasculating.” Mismatched libidos The tension caused by mismatched libidos can really rock a relationship.When my former partner went from wanting sex every day to not at all for weeks, I’ll admit I was pretty cut up.
Years ago, I dated a guy with undiagnosed bipolar disorder. When low, his habit of stumbling out of bed to browse porn as the kettle boiled, or spending hours trawling the profile pictures of escorts had me convinced he had some sort of addiction issues.
A few months into our relationship, I dragged him off to sex therapy because of his seemingly uncontrollable behaviour. Up until the escort point, I’d thought that the other signs – the spending sprees, sporadic drug-taking, or staying up all night to work - were nothing more than foils to his ample creativity.
Individuals learn to watch out for triggers that may send them spinning into an exaggerated mood state.
Yet, sex for those who are bipolar can prove a real minefield.
Hypersexuality, a frequent urge for sexual activity, has long been touted as a symptom of bipolar, which is said to become apparent as individual descends into into a manic or hypomanic state.